How to Make Friends and Influence People on Campus
Have you found yourself a bit lonely at times as you attempt to get used to college life? It’s never fun to be the kid sitting alone at lunch or passing time alone in your dorm room on weekends reading the Harry Potter series for the 10th time. We human beings are curious creatures who crave connection with others – thus we dare you to take action.
In the case that you want to gain more friends, the following ideas may help:
- Know & accept yourself. It’s important that you really understand what makes you tick – what inspires you to be happy. The beauty of moving beyond high school is that everyone is on an even playing field in college. You now have the chance to meet people who have similar interests and reveal to them what an amazing being you are. Stay true to yourself, be bold and the rest will follow!
- Lend a helping hand. Reach out to your fellow college students in an effort to help them with their studies, carry things up the stairs, find their classes, etc. When you give your time, you’ll gain a lot in return. Plus, these moments give you time to ask questions and get to know lots of great people. You can maybe even invite those you help to have some lunch.
- Listening Rules! Become a great listener, instead of a babbler. Listening to others and showing you care goes a long way. Of course you should speak as well, but just keep in mind that good listeners tend to build numerous friendships that last a lifetime.
- Stay 100 yards away from gossip. Don’t get caught up in petty gossip. Your high school days are over…now is the time for drama free living. When your friends start gossiping, run the opposite way or change the subject to something more positive. A gossiper is rarely trusted or admired on campus.
- Join a club or group. College life offers so many opportunities for students with all sorts of interests. One of the best ways to get to know good people is to connect with them in a constructive setting. No matter what your interest – be it art, music, politics, literature, sports or debate – there’s bound to be something for you.
According to bestselling author and motivator Dale Carnegie in his book How to Win Friends & Influence People, there are six ways to make people connect with you. We’ll leave you with these, and wish you a great day:
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Smile.
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
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